Keep us in the boundaries

Unit 3 is about the helping relationship. After this lesson, all of the unrealistic beliefs and my wrongly perception about the helping process before had been cleared. Counsellor, an ordinary person too, a professional helper but not the saviour of the world. Just take the responsibility in the part we are but not over the boundaries. We should always know our limitation and boundary whenever we help as well as in doing self disclosure. It is the statement that reveal something personal about the therapist. Ensure that it is for the benefit of the clients and is therapeutic in its intent. If we use it wisely, it can be a useful tool in dealing with something that might initially impact negatively on the therapeutic relationship.

Josephine Lo  52070

Impress again

In unit 2, we had learnt about Dasie model, Person-Centered theory and Cognitive Behavior Therapy. I really like the atmosphere during BHS lesson especially the stories sharing of each others. Every lesson will give me different touching and insight. BHS provides the skills and techniques for us to master in the use of helping process. But somehow in the lesson, i feel like i am the one being helped and being healed most of the time. It helps me to know more about myself, my problems as well as my weakness. However, the words come out from Dr Fa do motivate and comfort us. She always uses her experiences to help us in dealing with ourselves, the people and the things happenning around us.
All of all, we have to start from ourselves first before reaching out to the public.


Josephine Lo  52070

Thank you BHS (basic helping skills)

Through this subject i learn many important things about how to become an effective helper. I think i should know more and better about myself before i go and help others. Actually..i'm afraid i will suddenly open up my client's problem when i'm to excited gossiping with my friends. But here in basic helping skills class teach me about confidential. It's very vital to keep our client's proble safely so that they will trust us. As a counselor, Dr.Fa always tell us her stories and experiences during the counselling session. Her experiences a little bit give a motivation and make me day by day improve myself to be a best counselor in future.

Fiona anak Kunang
(51797)

Relationship Between Helper & Helpee

     Hey guys! In previous lessons we have learned about helping relationship. As a helper, we should have a strong bonding with our clients. But how?? BUILD A TRUST. For sure they will need some time to build a trust on their helper. Some people are really hard to trust others especially an outsider. That's the reason why we should shows our sincerity and make they feel comfortable with us as a helper.
     I can see that people may judged and make many assumptions about us whether in positively or negatively and we do will faced this matter with our clients in the future. But we need to put it aside and try our best to get coped with this situation. If we shows our positive aura, I'm sure that our client can feel it and easily build a good relationship with us. Having a good relationship with others especially with or client also can showed that we are an effective helper. I think i'll stop here. Till then, bye! :)

Alyeca bt. Eric (51158)

If We Help People,God Will help Us

Alhamdulillah, I thanked Allah because I find this  "Basic Helping Skills where I could not meet class where Lecturer someone very positive is our beloved lecturer Dr Fatahyah Yahya.

Before attends to this class I think this class just usual helping class which already integrated inself and consider this class like first aid class, but I wrong on the other hand, class "basic helping skills is class which teaches much further on basic skill help where a lot of people today would like others but way carried out is wrong and not suitable. This is because, less knowledge on skills.Since learn Unit 1 "Helper Effective" I have found 1001 new way to become an effective helper.i would like to borow a words form Dr Fa below;

"if we really sincere towards client, client will like and love with us"

BE ONE AS A HELPER AND AS A HELPER HELP CHANGE ONE'S LIFE

BE ONE AS A HELPER AND AS A HELPER HELP CHANGE ONE'S LIFE

The end of the 4th class of BHS was undoubtedly a life changing 3-hour class supplement. The magnificence of upholding pious skills in helping relationships are in accord of creating a better environment for Trainee Counselors that are celebrated and eager to push outwards into the society as Helpers that are Forward and Contemporary looking. 

Realizations of unrealistic beliefs and reasonable expectations are implied to oneself as helping ourselves came before helping other people. A clear indicator and knowledge of our own niche areas are essential for creating a better prospect of a helper. The stress on Therapeutic Relationships are indeed game changers and expose the effectiveness in helping. One can encounter various variables of clients and they may some clusters that may touch on self disclosure. However, limited as possible self disclosure are more than enough to put our alms way. The apparent roadblocks to communication can be overcome by overwhelming knowledge of helping skills that are subjective yet applicable to oneself in such positive ways.

In a nutshell, Helping Relationship is the way of applied positive and correct techniques for the betterment of everyone. I invite all of you together be one as a helper and as one helper change one's life.

Thank You
ADRIAN ANAK ALBERT (AA)
50333  

It is totally different !!

After finish the lessons on basic helping skills , i found that it is different from what i thought as i think that being a counselor is more like giving them advise to help them go through their problems but soon i found that it is wrong as a professional counselor ,we just can help them find the ways and we can just lead them to the best way but cant give them order or solutions , the best counselor is doing the less things . 

 

besides that , i at first think that the best ways to build up trust is by being his/her friends but once again i found that it is wrong as we can only use self-disclosure to introduce ourself and have to clearly understand that it is 1 ways pathways and the counselling sessions is best conducted in the counselling lab .

the most important is the counselor must have a good self -exploration and understand self well as only by knowing self well , then we can help our clients .

Quote of the day - Pain is what u pay , Success is what u get