Be strong, young counsellor!

Today was the 4th class of Basic Helping Skills, we had learnt Unit 3: Helping Relationship. I found a very interesting topic during this class, which was Perry's Stages. There are 3 stages, which are dualistic stage, multiplistic stage and the relativistic stage. In the dualistic stage, the young counsellors like us will tend to fail in focusing to the clients because we will keep thinking what we are going to say next. I found this interesting because I experienced that when I conducting interview with people on my assignment. Dr Fa explained to us that was a normal situation and we need to keep improving to get out of this stage.

Another point I want to highlight is during this class, we had came across a lot of common unrealistic beliefs about the helping process. Dr Fa explained to us we have to know all of this just to keep ourselves always motivated and not to put blame on ourselves after we had tried our best. Yes, we as  counsellors need to help our clients, but at the same time we need to take care of our own feelings too as we are just ordinary human beings. Moreover, if the clients have doubt on our qualification, we don't ever feel down or angry because all we need to do is to serve them professionally to help them overcome their problems. Only after the counselling session, the clients will believe in us and we are able to build our reputation and confidence slowly.

It is all begin with you, if u don't take care and understand yourself, you will not be strong enough to care for others.


LEE MAY FEN
52246

Assalamualikum dan salam sejahtera

Before this afternoon class, I really don't know about what counselor can do and can't. There are many things that I thought a counselor can do but actually they can't really do it. Other than that, a counselor just help the client to help themselves. The are not a problem solver but they will help the client to solve the issues together. That's all , thank you.

Muhammad Solihin B Ab Rahaman , 52730 .

Helping Relationship~~

From this class, I knew that if we have no skills, we cannot develop ourselves into a good helper. If client leave drastically, something going wrong with that counselling session. Something that I feel touched is that client will not leave us if they trust us. I also learnt that counselor will get help from helpee. One more important things I learnt from that class is we must understand ourselves first because we can't help others without knowing ourselves. The more we understand ourselves, the more we understand our clients.

AGNES KONG YI JING                   51065

Another interesting Chapter

Yesterday we just learned about helping relationship.. well it's not easy to create therapeutic relationship between counselor and counselee.. Now I learnt a lot about what the belief that the counselor should have and what that shouldn't..
-Roy Dilang, 53686

Lesson for today :)

Evening everyone. Today's class were very special because Dr Fa prepared us a big fan because of this hot day. We gained more knowledge today as we learned about helping relationship. As she told us about her experiences through all her old days we gained to know more about helping people with various kind of skills. I summarize today's lessons that we as a counselor,we should not order nor instruct our client to accept our idea but together discuss with them about the best solution so they feel comfortable to do so. Plus,we should strictly avoid asking for confirmation on a divorce case because as a professional counselor,we should show them a right path instead of agree to most of their problem and giving advice to them. Everyone can give an advice but as a counselor,we should torch them a right path. The most important thing,we should know our self before we tend to know others more. Additionally,as a counselor we should not be "poyo" and have a unrealistic belief but a reasonable expectation. Try to get well with the client by using self-disclosure but it has a limit. Well,thats all for today. Thank you

~Nurul Afiqah bt Zekeria (53409)~

Let's Get Started

Hi everyone,
Before entering basic helping skills class, I wonder what is this class all about. The first class was quite tough for me as the class condition was so uncomfortable and eventually it affects my mood to study in this class. But then slowly, I started to learn bit by bit about it and I find out it is kind of interesting where I got to explore myself during the class. As the lecturer share some of the cases happened, the interest of seating and learning in this class started to grow in me.Throughout all the classes I have entered, slowly the passion to help people started to bloom in me and I hope it will continue to bloom for the rest of my days so let's get started!

Felicia Cosmas 50508

Congratulations..!

It very happy to see many posting keep coming up day by day.  I was reading all posting and trying to understand every single words that you have written down.  Keep blogging and sharing..:) - Dr Fa